I could feel the pain straight into my heart, how can I be more active? You should also acquire some lube—not just because lube is fun and turns sex into a Slip 'N Slide of awesome, but also because lubrication reduces friction, pain, and the chance that the condom will break or tear. Find a pace and rhythm that suits you both. For me that was not the case at all. If you're not wet enough, don't be too concerned — there is nothing wrong with you or your partner. You'll be so glad you waited until you were obsessed with someone, someone you could trust and giggle and high-five through it. Let us slide into your DMs.
Place a pillow beneath your pelvic area for additional support.
But just remember that you never owe someone sex, no matter how nice they are, or much they spent on concert tix, or that it's your whatever-month anniversary or someone's birthday or anything else. If she seems to be in pain, slow down or pull out a little.